I received a mailer at the office, an attractive one that, in red and white, decorated with hearts and bows.

It is pitching a gym membership for women, offering a Valentines Day Special.

Of course, its a cute idea, and what can be a better way to work off those holiday chocolates than to work out?

Actually, there is one.

If you want to truly give the gift of love to your partner, to your spouse, or your children, give them the gift of self-defense training.

Nothing sends the message better that you love them than saying you want them to be safe, to be free from danger, and above all, to live a less fearful life.

Specifically, heres what theyll get out of your gift:

(1) Self-esteem. People who think highly of themselves are better lovers because they love themselves.

(2) Self-confidence. Self-confident people are sexier. Actor Jack Palance said so, it that commercial on TV a few years ago!

(3) Physical fitness. Whether its abs of steel, or toned arms, legs, and other body parts, youll get them by practicing martial arts, even that slow and graceful one elders often use, Tai Chi.

(4) Increased energy and vigor. Unquestionably, your stamina improves and you radiate dynamism when youre a martial artist.

(5) Peace of mind. Wouldnt it be nice to walk down that dark alley at night and know your love is the scariest one there?

Seriously, give it some thought.

This Valentines Day, you have a chance to give a gift of love, and life!